Forgiveness
Seeking forgiveness is difficult. Saying "I'm sorry" means that you are acknowledging that you are wrong and that you are lowering yourself below the person whom you have wronged. Nobody likes to do either of those two things because it doesn't feel good.
On the other hand, forgiving is also difficult. Saying "I forgive you" means that you are letting the person go. Before, that person is locked up inside the prison of revenge; the person is the prisoner and you are the warden of that prison. You feel like revenge gives you power.
Seeking forgiveness doesn't feel good. Forgiving doesn't feel good either. But that's the nature of medicine; it doesn't taste good, but you know it's good for you. If seeking forgiveness and forgiving is the medicine, then what is the illness?
The illness here is an inflated ego.
People who don't want to ask for forgiveness feels that it is humiliating to lower themselves, even if they know they are wrong. The ego doesn't want to feel humiliation so in order to maintain a sense of pride, the ego either denies that it's wrong or retaliates with some sort of weird justification.
People who don't want to forgive feels that it is a sign of weakness to let go of the person whose done them wrong. The ego feels empowered by revenge, and it wants to maintain that power. Revenge becomes the source of energy for the person.
However, revenge is a negative energy. Although it can motivate people to keep on going, it can also devour them. Revenge is like a baggage that they carry around all the time because they refuse to let it go. That baggage gets heavier and heavier as time goes by.
Every time people remind themselves about the painful past, the wound gets deeper and deeper. So holding on to revenge will be detrimental for them. The medicine is to let it go, no matter how hard it may be.
To forgive and let go doesn't mean that people just forget what happened. It is undeniable that there are wrongdoings that are almost impossible to forget. To forgive and let mean that they allow themselves the room for healing.
Whether it be to ask for forgiveness or to forgive, both are not easy to do. To ask for forgiveness requires a big heart and to forgive requires a bigger heart. Thankfully, God designed the human heart to be big enough for both
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On the other hand, forgiving is also difficult. Saying "I forgive you" means that you are letting the person go. Before, that person is locked up inside the prison of revenge; the person is the prisoner and you are the warden of that prison. You feel like revenge gives you power.
Seeking forgiveness doesn't feel good. Forgiving doesn't feel good either. But that's the nature of medicine; it doesn't taste good, but you know it's good for you. If seeking forgiveness and forgiving is the medicine, then what is the illness?
The illness here is an inflated ego.
People who don't want to ask for forgiveness feels that it is humiliating to lower themselves, even if they know they are wrong. The ego doesn't want to feel humiliation so in order to maintain a sense of pride, the ego either denies that it's wrong or retaliates with some sort of weird justification.
People who don't want to forgive feels that it is a sign of weakness to let go of the person whose done them wrong. The ego feels empowered by revenge, and it wants to maintain that power. Revenge becomes the source of energy for the person.
However, revenge is a negative energy. Although it can motivate people to keep on going, it can also devour them. Revenge is like a baggage that they carry around all the time because they refuse to let it go. That baggage gets heavier and heavier as time goes by.
Every time people remind themselves about the painful past, the wound gets deeper and deeper. So holding on to revenge will be detrimental for them. The medicine is to let it go, no matter how hard it may be.
To forgive and let go doesn't mean that people just forget what happened. It is undeniable that there are wrongdoings that are almost impossible to forget. To forgive and let mean that they allow themselves the room for healing.
Whether it be to ask for forgiveness or to forgive, both are not easy to do. To ask for forgiveness requires a big heart and to forgive requires a bigger heart. Thankfully, God designed the human heart to be big enough for both
-NNIBMS-
Kredit Aiman Azlan
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